Content Warnings: Mentions of misgendering
My Rating: 5 books out of 5
- I learned some things from this book, even though I like to think I’m quite good with pronouns!
- Honestly just a delight to read.
- Cis author steps aside to allow their nonbinary companion to explain their own pronouns.
This is a book that does exactly what it says on the cover. A Quick And Easy Guide To They/Them Pronouns is a delightful and quick read that covers the basics of they/them pronouns and their importance, as well as how to use them correctly and what NOT to do.
It was reading this book that I realised asking for preferred pronouns, no matter how well intentioned, was inferring in some way that I thought pronouns were a preference as opposed to a firm requirement. I don’t have ‘preferred’ pronouns, I have pronouns, and it isn’t any different for trans and nonbinary people. Going forward I will ask simply for pronouns.
Confused about how a person’s pronouns will affect how you refer to them?
If you understood the above sentence, you probably shouldn’t be.
While it doesn’t go hugely into depth with the pronouns used by trans and nonbinary people – after all, they/them are not the only options – this book does touch upon a broader spectrum of identity and pronoun usage. It is, after all, an introductory guide and on that front I believe it delivered. Light-hearted in nature, but entirely honest about the importance of using a person’s correct pronouns, I think this is the perfect book for someone just trying to get to grips with them.
A very quick read, but plenty educational and entertaining, I’d recommend this to anybody looking to further their understanding of they/them pronouns!